There is likely a multitude of reasons why you and your ex-wife filed for divorce. It is also likely that difficult communication was one of the reasons. Regardless of your communication woes, if you and your ex-wife have children together you will need to navigate your way to a successful co-parenting relationship post-divorce.
Improving communication between co-parents is key to joint custody success and ease. According to Divorcemag, you can improve communication with your co-parent by minimizing conflict and sticking to professional communication methods.
Dial the temperature down
Even though the romantic relationship between you and your ex-wife did not work out, you will be parents together forever. It does not matter if you are on good terms or not concerning this fact. As such, it is in everybody’s best interest for you to shift your mindset away from your failed romantic relationship and toward becoming successful parenting partners. This will help bring the focus away from the past and into the future.
Try to change your mindset regarding your ex-wife. Even though she may still be able to get under your skin, seeing her as a co-worker rather than an ex-lover can help you communicate fruitfully about your children.
If you and your ex-wife cannot converse without a fight, it is probably wisest to switch to text-based communication. Texting itself is likely a bit too informal for this sort of situation and can lead to misunderstandings.
Switching over to email-based communication can help make the situation seem more professional. Additionally, if your ex-wife sends a missus that upsets you, you have time to cool off before responding.