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What are effective co-parenting styles?

by | Oct 17, 2019 | Family Law

After a divorce, custody and child-rearing becomes more complicated. Co-parenting in Alaska may benefit your child. It is crucial that you remain consistent and can work together in a healthy, positive way with your partner.

Psychology Today suggests that there are two different co-parenting styles: strategic and social-psychological problem-solving.  Strategic problem solving is more objective. You identify the problem and do not resolve conflict by addressing the emotional reasons of the problem. Instead, the two parents exchange information carefully about their needs and priorities and build resolutions on shared concerns.

Social-psychological problem solving uses emotion, rather than objectivity. You would pay closer attention to attitude and emotional reasons behind the blind spots in your parenting. While both styles rely on the parents acknowledging that conflict is bound to happen, this style allows you to look at the emotional factors that lead to conflict. The point of this style is to remain empathetic and compassionate. You do not want to increase tension or start conflict.

Co-parenting works less if one or both parties are critical of one another. Open dialogue is key to shared custody and joint parenting. You should set rules for your child that you and your parenting partner agree on having. Structure is important for a child’s healthy development. It is crucial not to break that structure in one household. Respect and empathy are important even when your ex is not around. Your child should only hear positive things about the other household.

The above information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be legal advice.