Divorces can become extremely messy, particularly when children are involved. It is difficult enough when you are in the middle of a separation, but when couples begin fighting for children, it becomes much messier. What happens if your spouse begins to turn your children against you? This is a horror story for most fathers but it is possible and it does have a name for it. This is parental alienation.
Parental alienation, according to Healthline, involves one parent using different methods to distance his or her children from the other parent. If your former spouse makes false statements about you regularly, it could lead to a form of alienation.
The allegations may begin mild or they could be severe. What happens is that false allegations will distort how children see their other parent. Even if they had a good relationship with you, they may start looking at you differently. This hurts the parent-child relationship. When children hear that their fathers are bad people or that they have done something wrong that they have not done, then children may choose not to speak to their fathers. Signs of parental alienation include:
- Your children constantly criticize you
- Your children’s feelings are not mixed, they are completely negative and have no redeeming qualities
- Your children have no evidence or specific examples for the criticisms that they have
- Your children do not feel any guilt about the situation or alienation of the other parent
- Your children show anger or hatred to other members of your family alongside of you
Parental alienation often involves a child who was close to both parents and is suddenly distant from one.