Whether you initiated the divorce or she did, divorce is still difficult. Robin Williams once said that divorce is like pulling your heart out through your wallet. As bad as it is, there are some common mistakes men can make that will actually make things worse.
Before you read through what not do during a divorce, there are several things that you probably should be doing:
- Commit to taking better care of yourself: Eat better, get exercise and enough sleep.
- Check in with your closest friends: Most people feel helpless as to how they can be a part of your life when you are in transition or crisis. Ask for some help with the easy stuff to keep them involved in your life.
- Look for a life coach or a therapist: If you’re stuck in a rut and repeating old behaviors, try talking to someone. “Every time you’re tempted to react in the same old way, ask yourself if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” —Deepak Chopra
- Schedule time with your children and pets: You’ll gain just as much, if not more, from spending time with loved ones.
The 5 divorce mistakes not to make
Not all divorces are created equal. Some will have different pain points than others, but you can avoid making things worse by exercising a little self-control. Don’t:
- Abuse social media: Experts agree that anything you post on social media can and probably will be used against you. No need to post photos of your weekend away on Instagram. Less is more right now.
- Lose your cool: Every word you say now could be misinterpreted or taken out of its proper context. When you are angry, your words may be considered as threatening. You just may find yourself on the business end of a restraining order.
- Hide money: I know you think because you made the money, you deserve to keep it. Hiding money is illegal and it will taint your entire case. Just don’t do it.
- Volunteer to move out: You have the right to remain in the house too. It may be awkward, but it will be more cost-effective to stay.
- Show off the new girl: The fire you light within your former spouse may never burn out. Emotions are already running hot, so don’t make the situation any worse for either of you.
When divorce happens, many men worry that they won’t be treated fairly in the process. An experienced divorce attorney can guide you through the process while protecting your rights.